Your Man and Your Natural Hair

I came across this video a few weeks ago and all I can say is LOVE IT! I love when men share their love for natural hair. The question of natural hair in relationships comes up a lot especially in the black community because most men aren’t used to seeing natural hair. The question of whether or not to dump your man if he does not like your hair is crazy to me. If a man is that worried about your hair you need to reevaluate your relationship.

Check out this brothers take on the subject . He is so knowledgeable on the crazy natural terms we have come up with, I found it hilarious. Now every time I say “pre-poo” I won’t be able to help but laugh!



Would you leave a relationship if your mate was unhappy with your natural hair?


Book of the Week: Having What Matters

One of my new years goals is to read 2 or more books a month. Right now I am currently finishing up “Having What Matters: The Black Woman’s Guide to Creating the Life You Really Want” by Monique Greenwood. So far I am really enjoying this book and I am not alone it has 4.5 out of 5 stars on Amazon. Here’s the full description:

She who has the most joy wins!

Accomplished author, entrepreneur, and former Essence editor in chief Monique Greenwood offers a refreshing prescription for personal and professional success, showing any woman how to have financial freedom, fulfilling work, loving relationships, great style, a sense of purpose, and a balanced and joyful life.

As Greenwood convincingly argues in her provocative new book, success is highly subjective — or at least it should be. “What rocks my world may feel like a rock in your shoe,” she advises. Having What Matters gives African-American women the confidence to define success for themselves and the techniques to turn their dreams into reality.

Greenwood shows you:

  • How to identify the illusions that hold you back
  • How to track your dreams and create “the plan”
  • Why no dream is impossible

Her very own life-from anonymity to the top of the Essence masthead, from an unfit size eighteen body to a shapely size twelve, from a cramped rental apartment to a mansion of her own, from countless bad relationships to a sweet union — is evidence that her “bootstrapping” strategies work.

Funny, down-to-earth, and motivational, Greenwood asserts that to achieve true personal satisfaction, a woman doesn’t have to work harder, but she must manage her life smarter. It was while writing this book that Greenwood really reflected on these lessons and decided to leave her esteemed position as editor in chief of Essence to devote more time to self, family, and the development of her own businesses. Reading Having Mat Matters will change your life, too.

There are so many inspirational quotes in this book…

  • “She who has the most joy wins!”
  • “…I am not a victim but a person with the power to ride out and rise above the pain and difficulty of the moment, knowing without a doubt joy ans peace would be mine.”
  • “If opportunities don’t present themselves, I create them.”
  • “…a   simple makes things happen. She finds a way when there appears to be no way. Give a bootstrapper lemons and she will not stop at making lemonade. She will dream of becoming the Starbucks of lemonade and eventually turn her citrus concoction into a thriving retail chain, e-commerce site, wholesale and import/export empire.”
  • “Persistence is the one element that quickly separates the doers from the dreamers.”
  • “An opportunity that knocks on the door is useless unless a person who has planned, prepared, persisted, and waited patiently for that occasion is standing on the other side to answer the call.”
  • “I refuse to be limited by other people’s limited imaginations or expectations.”
  • “Visualize. Plan. Act. Practice.”
  • “Sometimes whats good for you  is also good to you.”
  • “Waiting for the perfect job is like waiting for the perfect life; there is no such thing.”

This book has been on my bookshelf for years. I don’t know why I am just picking it up but then again my father has been giving me self-help, motivational, success, business, personal growth, and African American women authors for most of my life. This book is even autographed with the sweetest message, “You have what it takes to soar– go ahead and fly” from Greenwood herself to my sister and me.  I recommend this book to all women but especially black women she is very honest and keeps thing real (for lack of better words). Her story and successes alone are an inspiration.  Once I finish I will do a full review so stay tuned….

Vegan Woes

This transition has not been easy. I have slipped, fell, and had my share of random chicken wings and milk with my cookies. Just when I was ready to give it up Oprah saved the day sharing her chef Tal Ronnen to the world.

He introduced a substitute for chicken called “gardein” so I can’t wait to try it out. I will also be trying the recipes from the show like the celery root soup and of course the Gardein “chicken” Scaloppini.

Apparently Oprah did a 21 day cleanse which included a vegan diet created by Chef Tal. So if Oprah likes it I’m sure its pretty good lets just hope I can recreate the recipes.



My Transition to Veganism

Since coming off the master cleanse I have been following a vegan diet for the most part. I have dibble dabbled on a piece of chicken here and there but hey I said I’m transitioning.

As a vegan the obvious changes are eliminating animal products like meat, poultry, seafood, eggs, dairy.  Vegans also lose honey, fur, leather, wool, and silk (I’m still deciding on this part). Vegans also lose animal by-products like gelatin, lanolin, rennet, whey, casein, beeswax, isinglass, shellac. I haven’t heard of some of these and now I watch ingredients on things more closely.

I have a bit of jello left and I’m not wasting it. Some of my vitamins also contain gelatin like my Fish Oil and Calcium supplements. I will be switching to Flax Oil (omega 3’s) and Blackstrap Molasses(calcium).

Following the this lifestyle is actually pretty easy. One part I need to work on more is making sure I get my exercise in and drink enough water. Check out the food pyramid….maybe I’m a nerd but its so cute.

Some things vegans have to make sure to get in is B 12, omega 3’s, greens, calcium, vitamin D, iodine, beans, whole grains, exercise, and a good attitude. Some substitutions like milk and butter have been the hard part for me because I don’t like soy and tofu products and love butter. Thank God I never like cheese. I have found one milk sub in almond milk and I have heard of this spread called Earth Balance to replace butter. Other than that I think I have got it down.

I try and take one day at a time and most importantly stay creative. I am looking into more books for recipes because some days I have no clue what to eat. Currently my diet is pretty simple and tasty. It includes:


(one of the following)

  • oatmeal and fruit
  • protein fruit smoothie
  • raisin bran or any high protein/fiber cereal with almond milk

AM Snack:

  • an apple or pear


  • Veggie Pack Salad with French or Kalamata Olives and a Vinaigrette Dressing

PM Snack:

  • carrots and hummus
  • or pita chips and hummus
  • almonds


(one of the following but not limited to)

  • Amy’s Organics Bean and and Rice Burrito
  • Vegan Fajitas
  • Red Beans and Rice and Cabbage (Jamaican Style)
  • Cuban Style Black Beans and Rice with Veggies
  • Vegan Chili
  • Red Beans and Rice with Sauteed Asparagus
  • Kashi Bean Bean Mango Frozen Meal
  • Pinto Beans and Rice with Veggies


  • Tofutti’s Ice Cream Sandwiches
  • Orange Juice
  • 100 oz of water
  • my vita cocktail
  • ACV cocktail

Non-Vegan Weaknesses:

  • Flamin’ Hot Cheetoes
  • Kebler Chocolate Chip Cookies
  • Jello
  • An occasional Chicken Wing

As you can see I’m not prefect.  Its even harder because I have a crazy sweet tooth and a cupcake biz. Like I said I am transitioning to vegan so stay tuned for updates.



An ACV Cocktail

Yes, you read right I said an apple cider vinegar cocktail. I know it doesn’t sound tasty and you are right but there are so many benefits. This drink consists of acv and blackstrap molasses. Its super easy to make  but lets get to the benefits.

Apple cider vinegar is not only great for shiny, pH balanced hair when used as a rinse but it has several benefits when taking it internally. ACV lowers blood pressure. My neighbor is in her late 80s and swears by it and I will take her word any day because she is probably in better shape than me. It also rids the body off toxins which can help with weight control as well. It help maintain healthy skin and a youthful body. Its also great after workouts to soothe tight and achy muscles.

You can take acv alone but you HAVE to dilute it with water. Trust me I tired it and it felt like a burned a hole in my throat. Now I’m not a fan of the taste so I add BSM which brings out the apple taste but BSM has a lot of health benefits as well.

BSM has a high iron, potassium, and sulfur contents. Its also one of the world’s healthest foods which is a surprise since its derived from sugar cane. It is also high in magnesium, calcium, copper manganese, selenium, and B6. The benefits are endless in terms of giving you energy, making your hair and nails strong, to keeping your bones strong. Check out this site for more info:

Now for the recipe:

  • 2 tbs. of Raw Unfiltered ACV
  • 2tbs. of Unsulphured Blackstrap Molasses
  • 8 0z. of Purified H2o

Stir this altogether and then you will have the famous ACV cocktail. It can be taken 3 times a day. I only do it once before bed because the acv burns calories ans rebuilds muscle while you sleep. I might try it in the morning for a good morning pick me up. Its also great after workouts.

Let me know your ACV cocktail experiences.

The Beauty Berry…

Also know as the acai berry (pronounced ah-sigh-ee).  It is said this miracle berry provides energy and endurance, weight controls, and beautiful hair, skin, and nails.

Now I was skeptical but almost everyone in the health food store I asked used it either as the pure juice, smoothies, bars, even a sorbet.

I did google it and there are a lot of scams out there saying this berry will make you lose weight and naming celebs like Oprah who actually doesn’t use it she just talked about it on the show. Most products online only have a small amount or an extract from the berry.

I got a free CD a bout the berry at Whole Foods and the store of the berry was quite interesting. The acai has been used in Brazil for thousands of years. It’s found in the rainforest and in time of  famine it helped people survive because of its high essential fatty acid, protein, and amino acids contents.

Some people are weary of fat but the good fat in this berry is the soucre so energy, helps in collagen production, and lubricates the body internally which is great for dry skin, hair, and nail. (This is what sold me.)

Well the new health pj in me had to give it a try. I really wanted something to boost my energy since I don’t drink coffee with the benefits for my weight and hair as extra bonuses.

The berry also has anti-aging properties because of the high levels of antioxidants which combats fatigue, mental confusion, cardiovascular function. Brazilians also claims it improves your outer beauty and sex drive.

One girl in the health food store has friends in Brazil and said they drink pure acai berry several times a day.

So purchased a 4oz bottle of the Genesis Today Acai 100 which as 30,000mg per serving. I took 2 tbs. in the morning but I’m not sure if it did anything. I do want to continue because I only used it twice but the large bottle is almost $40 dollars.


It didn’t taste too bad but is not all the great alone. It mixes well with juices though. I also tired the Naked Juice Acai Machince which was absolutely wonderful!

I plan to add the Acai 100 to my vita-cocktail reggie so I can do a full review on how it affects my energy and hair.

Have you ever tired any acai products? How did you like them and how have they worked for you?